Coaching model

ASK → EXPLAIN → STRUCTURE → ADAPT → REVIEW

COACH THE PLAYER — NOT THE LABEL.

Ask

Start with the sporting goal and communication preference: “What are you working on?” and “How do you prefer me to explain things?” Do not start by asking for a diagnostic history.

Explain

  • Use clear, specific language.
  • Say what you want the player to do, not only what to stop doing.
  • Check understanding without turning the conversation into a test.
  • Written or visual information can help some players.

Structure

  • Make the session sequence clear.
  • Break complex tasks into manageable steps where useful.
  • Give warning before changing the plan where possible.
  • Use a consistent place for session/tournament information.

Adapt

Adapt communication, waiting, sensory load or coaching format where reasonable without assuming the athlete needs lower technical expectations. Do not force eye contact or physical touch. Ask before repositioning a player’s arm, shoulder, stance or grip.

Behaviour and regulation

Movement, fidgeting, stimming, looking away or needing quiet should not automatically be read as disrespect, lack of effort or poor attitude. If behaviour creates a genuine safety or participation problem, describe the specific issue and work with the player on a practical solution.

Do not diagnose

Autism and ADHD diagnosis require appropriate professional assessment. A coach should not use a checklist, social-media post or personal opinion to tell a player she “definitely has” a condition.

Girls

Quiet or apparently compliant behaviour does not prove that a girl is comfortable. Use low-pressure check-ins, give her age-appropriate ways to communicate preferences, and follow safeguarding procedures if a welfare concern arises.